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Tom’s Top 5 Mentoring Tips

To get the most out of every mentoring relationship, make sure you study my top 5 tips below and integrate them into your new and current mentoring relationships. I’ve been involved in mentoring for over 40 years now and know these are a must!

-Chemistry – The mentor and the student must have chemistry. They must get along. You can’t really explain chemistry; it is just something you feel with the other person. You can tell when two people have good chemistry because everything clicks, and the two people feel it’s fun and easy to be around each other.

-Respect – There must be mutual respect from each person. You don’t have to respect everything about the person, but the student definitely needs to respect the mentor in the area they are asking to be mentored. The student needs to remember that no person is perfect, and everyone has weaknesses and difficulties. Don’t expect your mentor to be perfect. A good student may recognize a weakness in one mentor and should then find another mentor who is strong in that particular area.

-Honesty – There needs to be a high level of honesty between the two people. Mentoring is a relationship. Great relationships thrive when each person is honest with the other person. How is a mentor supposed to help the student if the mentor doesn’t truly know the student? And how is the student supposed to believe the mentor if the mentor is not honest with the student? Open and honest communication can really develop a strong mentoring relationship.

-Success – The student needs to make sure the mentor has success in the area they are asking the mentor to help them in. That’s the difference between a coach, a teacher and a mentor…the mentor’s actually done it and experienced it. Yes, someone can be a teacher and a mentor, but the only way a teacher can be a mentor is if they have success or experience in the particular area in which they are helping others.

-Right Timing – Make sure the mentor has the time to spend with the student. There needs to be enough time get to know each other, whether it’s eye to eye or over the phone. I prefer building the relationship in person. One way I like to mentor others is through running. I invite students to run with me. This isolates us and allows us time to talk, get questions answered, and get to know each other better. This also helps the mentor figure out who is serious and who is not. Inviting someone to do something that requires effort (like running) really shows me who I should invest my time in. If they can’t run do to physical issues, they can always ride a bike. One major thing many people over look is this: you cannot mentor someone who doesn’t want to be mentored. Give that person time and space with hope that they will eventually come around and be ready to receive mentoring.

How To Stay Personally Energized…

Every week I have the opportunity to meet with about 40-50 highly successful men and women through an organization called ELC Roundtable. You can learn more about it here. Last week the question was asked: How do you stay personally energized? I thought it was a great question and wanted to share some bullets points from the meeting with you:

First, there are two views you must consider. The 25,000 foot view. In other words how do you stay personally energized when we look at your life as a whole…from beginning to end. Next is the granular view or daily view.

How do stay energized from the 25,000 foot view: You must have something worth living for…a desire of doing something with your life that is bigger than yourself. Most people find this type of desire in the spiritual world, this gives them purpose and keeps energized from the 25,000 foot view. One of my favorite books on this topic is The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. I’ve read this book over 40 times and highly recommend you pick up a copy here.

Now let’s move on to the tougher one…how do I stay energized on a day to day basis.

For me personally, I used to have a terrible “I” disease. That’s right it was just terrible. I used to stay in bed until 2:30pm. I’d sleep all day and stay up all night because there’s no real responsibility that late at night. My life was all about me.

So I had to change my perception on life to helping others and what I needed to do to make that happen. One thing I had to do is wake up earlier. But I hated waking up early…i tried it all and you know what I’m talking about: multiple alarms…set up all over the room…freezing cold showers…THE SNOOZE BUTTON so you could start the waking up process an hour before the time you really need up :-)

Yep I’ve been there, luckily I broke the bad habit. Now I wake up at 5am every morning 7 days a week…yes, even if I’m on vacation. Here’s what I did:

One, I had to have a routine in my life…a routine that allowed me NOT to think. This has developed over the years but today my routine is this:

  1. Wake up at 5am.
  2. Read a chapter of The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren.
  3. Journal.
  4. Read a chapter of Proverbs.
  5. Do either 200 sit-ups or push-ups, depending on the day.
  6. Pray.
  7. Show, dress and start the day.

So now when I wake up, I don’t have to think, I go straight to my library and grab The Purpose Driven Life and start reading where I left off.

Another tactic I often use is setting a negative consequence for myself. There are two severely powerful consequences I have found that work for me.

  • If I don’t achieve this (insert goal here) then I eat a can of Alpo Dog Food…unfortunitely I’ve eating 2 cans in my life!
  • If I don’t achieve this (insert goal here) then I write a $100 check to an organization I would never support. Example: the KKK or if you’re a big time republican, send the democrat nominee a check to help him campaign.

If you completely, honestly follow through on the above tactics…trust me you won’t wake up after 5am more than a couple of times :-)

Here are some more bullet points from the group:

  • Find a job that you are passionate about
  • Find a job that allows you to help other people
  • Find a job that takes the focus off of you
  • Association: make sure you associate with people who are passionate about life
  • Exercise: exercise creates energy and high self-esteem
  • Mindset: change your mind-set to this, “we’re only here for a short time, why wouldn’t I want to do something that brings me joy and happiness.
  • New Information: learn something new, this brings you new ideas and ideas create energy.
  • Be Grateful: think of all the things you have instead of what you don’t have.
  • Self-talk: this is huge, you can simply put your self in a good mood with lots of energy just by talking to yourself…talk to your self in a positive manner, pump yourself up! Click Here for a great resource on self-talk.
  • Have fun in everything you, laugh and remember there’s no such thing as a big deal.

So I hope this helps you to create a ton of energy in your life. We all have a lot to be excited about, stop focusing on the negative and begin to focus on the positive.

To Your Success in Business and In Life.

Tom

How to never miss an exercise session…

Do you ever get tired of not waking up on time or not feeling motivated enough to make it to the gym that day or go do that run you promised yourself you were going to do?

This is a constant frustration I hear from people all the time. It was a constant frustration for me too…

Until I found this little solution to fix my problem.

Here’s how my story went. My goal was and still is to run 9 miles every week around Lake Hefner. This is a beautiful lake near my house. I wanted to run the lake every Saturday morning at 6am…that’s right 6am. So here’s what I did…

I just so happened to be mentoring a few people at the time and I told them if they wanted time with me then they needed to meet me at Lake Hefner at 6am on Saturday morning.

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Contest Winner Jacquelyn Cuellar

We would like to congratulate our latest contest winner Jacquelyn Cuellar, Student, New York.

The following is an interview we conducted with her:

  1. How did the book, Mentor: The Kid & The CEO, impact your life?
    My priorities have changed since reading the book. It made motivated me to rethink the way I do things.
  2. What are you going to do with the $1,000 CASH?
    I am going to give some of the money to each of my family members, buy Christmas gifts, and start a savings account with the rest.
  3. Which mentor in your life has had the most impact on you and why?
    My mom. She is a great mother and I can talk to her about anything.
  4. What are you going to do with the $1,000 worth of free books?
    My sister is going to be a teacher. I am going to giver her some of the books to pass out to her students. Also, I am going to give some of the books to my school library.
  5. What has been the most memorable moment of your life?
    I got my sister a toy a long time ago and she still has it to this day. I love to see her happy. Family is very important to me.
  6. What is your profession?
    I am a 10th grade high school student.

Inpsire 2008 Keynote Posted!

It’s finally here…Tom Pace’s keynote address from the annual banquet Inspire.

Inspire 2008

Tom Pace will be the keynote speaker at Inspire 2008 this year. Inspire is an annual banquet put on by an organization called College Mentors for Kids (CMFK). This is a great organization! Every year they educate young students about college and the importance of getting an education.

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Hello Everyone!

Welcome to the blog for Mentor: The Kid & The CEO. This will be the place that you can get updated news about what is going on with the book and the author…Tom Pace.

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